Category Archives: Healing

Deconstruction

I love watching buildings go up…though I really do not love the idea of using up every available square inch of the natural places to do so. They’d built a brand new elementary school behind my daughters’ 40 year old … Continue reading

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To no one in particular and to you in particular

I don’t want to live like this anymore (upset, tearful, afraid). I don’t want to keep beating myself up for my failures. I was taught to mistrust my Self. I was taught to hate my Self. I can see, though, … Continue reading

Posted in adult child of alcoholics, adult survivors of abuse, Affirmations, Alcoholism, anxiety, Compassion, Ego, Emotionally Absent Mother, Empathic resonance, Grief and Loss, Grounding, Healing, Healing Power of Tears, Healthy detachment, Personal growth, Seeking the sacred, Self-affirming, self-criticism, Trapped in the Mirror, Trauma, trauma recovery, True Self, Trust | Tagged , , , , , | 4 Comments

Accepting when it’s hard.

Yesterday, my best internet friend needed a month-long break from me. Not a couple of days, not a couple of weeks. But a whole month. I have separation anxiety. I know this is stupid and irrational. I KNOW I’d been … Continue reading

Posted in anxiety, Broke Down Spirit, Connection, Disconnection, Friendship, Grief and Loss, Healing, Healthy detachment, Highly Sensitive Person, Mindfulness, Moods, Radical Acceptance, Radical forgiveness, Radical self-forgiveness, Sadness, True Self, Trust | Tagged , , , | 6 Comments

Surrendering is hard for me.

There’s all this “stuff” going on in my life that’s challenging me. I’m a highly sensitive person.   I don’t know if I would have been this way anyway, or if I became this way due to childhood and relationship trauma.   … Continue reading

Posted in adult child of alcoholics, adult survivors of abuse, Cancer, Compassion, Father Loss, Grief and Loss, Healing, Highly Sensitive Person | Tagged , , , , | 6 Comments

Building resilience after trauma: Verbal First Aid

I realize lately that my ability to bounce back from trauma and loss is slowing down. I am discovering that what you say to yourself makes a big difference on how you recover from trauma, loss and setbacks. I don’t … Continue reading

Posted in A Lamp In the Darkness, Acute Response to Stress, anxiety, Authentic Personality, Compassion, Complex-PTSD, Death, Emotional Intelligence, Emotional Self-Regulation, Grief and Loss, Healing, PTSD, Trauma, trauma recovery | Tagged , , | 3 Comments