Category Archives: Grounding

Update on my father

He was moved to hospice yesterday. I told my mother and she is, as expected, cold and critical and she started in on being mean and nasty to me.  Her hatred of my father doesn’t even end when she knows … Continue reading

Posted in Death, Father Loss, Fathers, Grief and Loss, Grounding, Healthy detachment, Narcissistic Mothers, Narcissistic Parents, Shame, Soul wounds | Tagged , | 15 Comments

To no one in particular and to you in particular

I don’t want to live like this anymore (upset, tearful, afraid). I don’t want to keep beating myself up for my failures. I was taught to mistrust my Self. I was taught to hate my Self. I can see, though, … Continue reading

Posted in adult child of alcoholics, adult survivors of abuse, Affirmations, Alcoholism, anxiety, Compassion, Ego, Emotionally Absent Mother, Empathic resonance, Grief and Loss, Grounding, Healing, Healing Power of Tears, Healthy detachment, Personal growth, Seeking the sacred, Self-affirming, self-criticism, Trapped in the Mirror, Trauma, trauma recovery, True Self, Trust | Tagged , , , , , | 4 Comments

Striking a balance between intellectual work and relaxation.

“Intellectual work imposes great tension on the mind and nervous system.  Under pain of nervous exhaustion and sometimes serious psychic illness, it is absolutely mandatory to provide for release of this tension.  Those engaged in intellectual work must be convinced … Continue reading

Posted in anxiety, Grounding, Intellectual life, Intensity, Moods | Tagged | 7 Comments

Echoes of the past

During the week between the 15th and the 21st of December, I was struggling a great deal with what I believe were somatic memories of what happened last year as well as partial dissociation.  The following is something I wrote … Continue reading

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Nature is medicinal

I wasn’t called in to substitute teach much lately and husband took a half day off work to walk with me in the woods on Thursday.  I almost declined, thinking I wanted to continue decluttering, but I’m glad we went. … Continue reading

Posted in Affirmations, Birds, Complex-PTSD, Emotional Self-Regulation, Grounding, Mindfulness, Nature, Paul Rezendes, Philibert Schogt, photography, PTSD | 2 Comments