He was moved to hospice yesterday.
I told my mother and she is, as expected, cold and critical and she started in on being mean and nasty to me. Her hatred of my father doesn’t even end when she knows he is dying.
I am not betraying my mother because I want to see my father before he dies.
My mother has EVERYTHING she needs materially…and much, much more that she doesn’t need.
But she is heartless and cruel and has a dead soul.
I pity her.
And I cry for me, because I don’t want to deny my love for my father just to make her pleased with me. I learned a LONG time ago is there is no pleasing her and more worrisome, when you deliberately displease her, she is capable of making life hell for you.
I will probably go back to ‘no contact’ with her. We were going to go to her house for Easter, but I canceled that. I know that would be a psychologically deadly thing to do.
Please spare a prayer for my father, stepmother, and to soften my mother’s heart, and for me, in case she can’t.