After reading my post about my parents, would it surprise you to know I’ve been conflicted most of my life with regards to other women?
Would it surprise you to know I have three sisters, but have been unable to form strong bonds with them because their kind of support includes many bits of advice on how to change me, rather than accept me as I am? I’d been bullied by my oldest sister, told I needed an exorcism by my religious zealot second oldest sister, and been sent hate email by my youngest sister.
I’ve had success at work with women friends, but little by little, after I left the job to raise my daughters, over 8 years, the connections have been lost.
I tried to replace them with mothering groups, both secular and Christian. Would you believe that attachment parenting is too radical for many modern women? You get the evil eye when you tell them you don’t believe in spanking and you breastfed your youngest for three whole years.
I’ve tried female Bible study groups. I got a stern lecture from the minister’s wife about the evils of Buddhist practice, even though Eastern mindfulness practice is medically supported in Western psychiatry, thanks to the scholarly, yet friendly, work of Dr. Daniel Siegel in The Mindful Brain: Reflection and Attunement in the Cultivation of Well-Being.
I’ve spent the last 10 years searching for female role models and had come up drastically short.
I have two female friends right now, and one of them is my therapist. I have about two more sessions with her before I have to stop seeing her. At the last session, it hit me how much I’m going to miss her. The other one is my dental hygienist, who I really see only once in a blue moon. But her joy is infectious. Remind me to make a date with her soon.
Anyway, this post is a call out to my female sisters across the globe.
I’d like to build a list of resources that nurture and support women. Would you be able to help me out?
I found a great potential site called Amazing Women Rock. I haven’t fully perused it yet, but it seems like an interesting one.
Since I can’t find a great role model in real life to emulate, I’d like to cobble together my idea of a nurturing, supportive, strong woman. I’d like your help.
What famous woman has influenced you the most in your life and what have you learned from her?
Do you know of any websites that promote feminine values of nurturing, creativity, gentleness, peace, and mindful awareness?
I think I’d like to post about them too in the coming months.
Thanks so much.